The Reason I been unable to suggest any particular name to this relation because of its behavior and the way person is with another person. I haven’t seen any relation which does not have secrets or in a another way cannot share everything, what exactly Unconditional Relation is, like you are like one room with so many windows and doors (defining as other relations in which family and loved ones, friends ) but with none you are completely your self 100%, in which none point out your mistake and correct forgetting him/herself totally till he/she is done fixing your mistake.
First of all know yourself well, Self control and specially the society in which your living in, I am not talking about making girl friend or a guy friend closest one I am talking about knowing yourself ultimately complete and understanding other person without any doubt. Self centered people face difficulty if they want to experience, be open minded but be careful when you are choosing because you have to careful about knowing the nature of the other person, always remember no matter how strong any relation becomes two things breaks them apart to hide and lie. At any cost avoid to hide and lie with your partner, no matter, it is in favor or not but stick to the rule of being fair always.
As like a room, open all your windows and door and let the sun light shine inside in every corner, not leaving a space for darkness anymore, the most transparent relation you ever experience unlike any other, this is all based on trust, sincerity, honesty, faithfulness, caring, protecting, loving and paying attention almost on each and every step of your life.
Once you experience such relation with anyone, there wouldn’t be a thing which you hesitate to share or ask anymore. Because you know the person you’re asking is not one among your family or friends but out of blues only possible with someone Stranger. “Some people say never trust a stranger ” but all strangers aren’t the same, like all fingers aren’t equal. Exploring your self more gives you a chance once in a life time to understand life and other things from closer point. not only this but also let you be yourself when you want to be, without any restriction. when it’s Unconditional it is obvious that, there are no conditions no limitation no boundaries and no threats behind it, straight forward nothing to loose to experience out of the world relation.
Despite from religions aspect and ritual, since it is also based on trust and faith, it also fallows the same ritual and beliefs but importantly I should mention that it does not have any boundary nor limits so where restrictions are are fearless and heaven is beyond fear.
Friendship has its own value and worth it cannot ever cross the limits of family specially parents, blood relations are has their own value always no doubt but it cannot be friendly as the way you make friends when you step out into social world and find a company alike you, when you get into relation of being married it’s a bound which has to carry till dying day, but that doesn’t make it the most strongest relation in which nothing is hiding, mostly as my own experience is involved in this those people find more easily those who choose to stay alone rather than being in gathering mostly, it is not the matter of being reserved or shy but sometimes it is because no one seems to understand you properly, so you prefer to keep your point of views and your perception up till your self.
There has been so many books been published on unconditional relation ending up on love, but honestly speaking love is everywhere it is you who is lost just find around it is like God with in you and with in every single thing in this world but this kind of transparent relation in which you not only find your self like a mirror where you know what are your qualities and where your wrong it is pretty hard to find, all thou friends sincerity sometimes corrects your mistakes but not all the time and thou you make a thousand friends in this world, but only counting on fingers friends will be your true friend forever. Because I started writing about unconditional relation I also thought that only friendship is the only relation which we make in this world with our own choice but now my perception is not the same since I don’t have many friends and none of them is close who knows me inside out, it is not because I never let anyone or allowed but it is because I didn’t find proper match with whom I can share openly without any hesitation and don’t feel like I am the only idiot around.
It demands everything what so ever you have but being kind and try giving more rather than expecting. You will understand yourself much easier, it’s not about getting closer to God but it is surely got a lot to do with spiritualism. As they say and its also true you cannot find peace, peace finds itself, experience it sometimes it feels like everything is wrong, feeling hopeless, helpless, worried, sad, quite, don’t even know how to cheer your self up, trust me this is one of the moment when this Unconditional Relation plays its major role. It never let you be lonely ever again, it doesn’t allow you to share something only in your mind it doesn’t let darkness even cross your mind and it doesn’t let you down.
Someone you can blindly die for but someone wouldn’t because you’re living in that person and that person is living you, how can someone, sounds weird but it is true. Call it insane or the involvement is way to further than anyone could ever expect since there is nothing to hide and when there is nothing to lie about means quite frankly ask or share, with in this relation you can experience the world beyond what ever you imaged with your life partner ( those who just dream or wish to get married ) and maybe who knows it is possible that the one who is so close to you becomes your life partner too but not because being into this relation, but more chances are it doesn’t last forever, it follows the rule “ what goes up, it always comes down “ so one or the other day you or your partner will make a mistake or do such stupid mistake which will cause this relation to tear apart so avoid it and once you are in it feel blessed and lucky one out of millions because not all the people those who love gets their lover nor not even get to experience something as such unconditional relation.
Please Write your comments they are valuable for me, hopefully In Part II, I will define how it concern with soul and other avenues.
Farhan Imaan ( Faree )
Dated : 1997 – rePublished 2009